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Well , as it's Valentine's this weekend I thought you might find this story funny from my never ending note book and everlasting pencil !
"The train travellers story"
A wealthy businessman who is used to getting his own way finds himself sharing a sleeper compartment with a beautiful young woman as they travel to Brussels on the train. It is winter and the heating is not working so the compartment is cold.
The two settle down to sleep.
"Two strangers, on a train..." says the businessman.
"Yes," says the woman.
"A man and a woman - away from home - probably never meet again.." says the businessman.
"Yes," says the woman.
"It's cold, isn't it?" says the businessman.
"Yes," says the woman.
"Could you pass me another blanket?" says the businessman, "... or maybe we could pretend to be man and wife for tonight?.."
"Yes, that would be good," says the woman, "Get your own bloody blanket."
Valentine Weekend means lots of different things to lots of different people. My friend Sara dreads it as it reminds her that she is a single mum nearing 50 with no companion. My other friend Nicky, who is also a single Mum with two teenage kids enjoys a good bottle of wine with friends and has a laugh and doesn't bat an eyelid. Another friend gets stressed as her husband never takes her out spontaneously and she has to book the restaurant. Another friend's husband goes to a lot of trouble, books a surprise venue and brings her orchids.....
Same weekend - different perceptions..........
So how do you keep the glow with your partner?
How do make time for each other each day, each week , each month?
It's so easy to get caught up in the busy, hectic rush of school runs, cooking meals and ironing shirts that we forget to spend just a few minutes each day being an adult, being a woman - not a mum, being a man - not a dad and allowing ourselves some "we" time.
Being in a relationship is all about small things. There are hundreds of books out there on finding your "soul partner" but it is in the every day small things that relationships stay connected.
It doesn't take long for a relationship to be just a millimetre apart but if it keeps going a millimetre apart every day,. every week and every year you suddenly wake up one day to find you have grown 3 feet apart and a huge chasm is between you.
Bringing up kids is tiring, challenging, and often overwhelming as well as great fun, a joy and a privilege but like children, relationships need nurturing. Often when parents come to see me about their children we start off by getting them connected again first - talking, laughing and relaxing, and moving away from the resentments, anger and frustrations between them so we can then sort out what 's going on with their kids.
I've written many articles about "Keeping the Glow" with your partner and you can read them here => by going to my Positive Parents Club and joining.
The 6 Types of Loving Relationship
The 6 Secrets of Every Successful Relationship
If you really loved me I wouldn't have to ask
Permission to Criticise Your Partner My Roberta Flack Exercise
Keeping the Glow With Your Partner
So whether you are are in a relationship or not, want to be in one, want a way out or are a bit "stuck" - commit to changing your mindset and perception about your current situation - ask yourself a better question , take responsibility for your own happiness and look for all the good in your life - from the smile on your teenager's face to the jam on your toddlers chin.
And turn up your speakers and dance around to this: =>
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BygUJDLOZ-I
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 "love, valentines day")
